Thursday, December 11, 2014

A True Man Cries

I have someone in my life that is afraid to show his true self.  He feels that his friends will judge him if he shows them who he really is.  I grew up in a very close knit family, me and brother have really great parents.  They cherish one another with great love.  Best Friends for life!  I have always dreamed to be with someone like my father.  A Prince with chivalry, a brave knight, a man who tells me everything, and a man that cries.  A true man show his true feelings to the woman that he truly loves.  He doesn’t keep secrets, he’s not mean, he is always there for you.

I grew up in a very loving home.  The only fights in my house was just stupid sibling stuff.  My parents never fought, never raised their voices at each other.  My parents have True Love just like Snow White and her Prince, Cinderella and Prince Charming, Sleepy Beauty and Prince Phillip.  That’s what I wish to have.

My Prince thinks he’s broken, he thinks that I don’t want to be with a damaged man.  A monster, like Frankenstein or Eric from Phantom of the Opera.  He thinks I’m not going to love him for what he is or what happened to him.  Ever since he has been diagnose with this cancer, I have never left his side.  I have always been there for him.  If it was other girls and I have been told by other girls, they would have not stayed with him, they would've broke off their relationship because they didn't want a Cancer boyfriend/fiancĂ© and I would never do that.

I understand that he is sick, but that doesn't stop me from loving him.  In sickness and in health, that is one of lines when you say your vows when you get married.  I think I have done my part really well, even though I’m not married to him yet.  I know that me and him have been having some problems, but that doesn't mean I’m giving up on us.  He needs to do his part too.  He needs to be open and show people who he truly is.  Everyone loves and looks out for him, he needs to start appreciating that.  If they judge him because he’s showing who he truly is, then they’re not his true friends.

Stop hiding behind a mask.  Start being yourself, be the man you were supposed to be.  It’s time to cry, laugh, love, take your responsibility seriously, and live.  Stop thinking you have to be some tough guy, start being a soft marshmallow.  You are suppose to be a kind, compassionate, loving, caring, responsible, frugal, gracious, and a  nice beautiful person.  Not a man who is heartless and mean.

It’s time to be the true man that cries!

XOXO

Saturday, November 15, 2014

The Season of Giving

The Season of Giving is drawing near.  To prepare a feast with family and friends, to give thanks to god for all the wonderful things he has given us.  It's time to make new memories and start a new.  Thanksgiving isnt about greed, like early Black Friday sales or Black Friday.  It's about giving back.  It's getting to the time where the Salvation Army is collecting money at the stores and just one dollar or little coins ain't going to hurt you if donate it into the bowl.  I did and I felt good about myself.  You feel good when you do something like that.  

The pilgrims that traveled to this precious land of the free.  Made peace with their enemies: The American Indians and enjoyed a huge feast.  They reunited as friends and paid no mind about their differences and they all became one that day to celebrate friendships, to god, and love.

These days Thanksgiving isn't like that, its all about greed and stupidity. Lets have everything open on Thanksgiving, the stores and the media has really destroyed the meaning of Christmas.  All the people are more worried about Black Friday, than having a fine thankful dinner with family and friends.  I don't go out on Black Friday, because greedy people are ridiculous and people get hurt and they fight.   This is the devil's evil doing.  People become scavenging vultures to win the best of the best before anyone else.  Instead of thinking about themselves and their families, think of the people that don't have anything.  Those are the people that needs to be given food, toys for the children, and love and kindness.

I'm thankful for God has given us a wonderful world to live in.  That god kept my fiance Brian alive and getting him better, its been a long hard year for all of us.  For my friends and family who has been here for us.  I'm thankful for having two wonderful parents and a little brother Eddie.  I love Thanksgiving, and I look forward watching the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, watching the classic The Miracle on 34th Street.  I look forward to great food and great everything.  Since I've been living down in Florida, I celebrate thanksgiving with my grandparents.  We enjoy each other's company and talk about good days and bad days and even sad days.  Look at pictures. 

That's what Thanksgiving is all about.  Family!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

Sunday, November 2, 2014

The Victim instead of the Victor


There is so many things that I need to solve for myself.  I have hurt myself and others for not owing up to all my faults and responsibilities.  My inner demon kept me from showing my real self to people.  I hide behind a very large wall made out of solid stone rock, so strong that lava couldn’t even break through.  I live in that kind of box because I’m afraid.  I’m afraid of life, failure, losing people that I love, death, love, my own shadow.  I live as hermit, I shut myself in, I don’t allow anyone in my life, my friends, my family, and my husband- to- be.  I have it in my mind that no one is going to like me or accept me for who I am.  That’s why I was always nice to people whether they were mean to me.  

My life is very complicated and I made it that way, which is so unfortunate.  I have so much knowledge and wisdom that I’m afraid to use them.  I had a great opportunity to transfer to the University of La Crosse, Wisconsin to persuade my dream to become an Archaeologists and I didn’t.  I didn’t want to leave the school that I was comfortable in and leave all my friends and teachers that I got so close too, I really regret it now, and I really feel that I failed for me to follow my dream that I want so bad.  I was afraid that if I left, all my friends would forget me.  But the one thing if I went Brian probably would’ve been going through his Cancer alone, maybe that’s why God had me stay in Florida.  I have made so many mistakes in myself, and I don’t know why I haven’t erupted like a volcano.   My inner Demon has made me this way, it keeps me from being a very strong leader.  Instead of leader, I’ve been a follower, a puppet, or someone’s scapegoat.  I seriously need to release this demon from me and start living and being my own person.

I use to have confidence in myself, and I received that confidence through someone that was special in my life.  Not a lot of people understand but this special someone was an Arabian horse name Twister.  He was my first soul mate, I know that sounds very weird, but when you connect to a horse, you both are one.  We have been through a lot together, but the day he died, I died with him.  I lost my confidence in myself, I didn’t have any confidence at my first college, I didn’t try my best, I failed.  I really failed when my advisor told me that I would never be able to help or train horses in the Racing Industry.  My favorite passions in the Horse industry is Dressage and Racing.  One day in my life when I was training with Twister, I actually was being trained to be a Dressage horse woman.  It was my favorite thing to do, watch and watch my trainer and learning the little tricks.  For the racing I imagine living in Kentucky or Florida living in a huge house that looked like a stable and then have big stables, white fences, my own tracks, beautiful thoroughbreds, trying to think of the most interesting names for my horses, and a couple of them are really funny, but I feel those are just dreams, they won’t happen. 

This demon is tearing me apart.  It’s making me lazy.  I use to take walks, I use to wear nice clothes and I always wore makeup and painted my nails, curled or did something nice to my hair.  I don’t really do that anymore, I just put whatever clothes on and but my hair in a messy bun and then I just go to class.   Then I go to my internship and then I go home.  I have made myself the victim, instead of the Victor. 


It’s my turn now to take control and let it go.  I need to be a strong leader, a very good loyal friend to anyone.  I need to cut the strings from this puppeteer that has control of me and take the reins of my own horse for my own journey.  To let people in and to show them what kind of talent I have.  There is so much that people don’t know about me.  Instead of relying on people being there for me, I really need to be there for them.  For people to love me back, I really need to love myself.  I need to take myself out of the fire.  I need to reach for that hand that’s trying to get me out for me to become the Victor.

Friday, October 31, 2014

Happy Halloween

I can't believe it Halloween, my favorite holiday.  What's bad is that I'm really not celebrating this year.  I really didn't decorate, I just put stickers on my windows that's about it, and I didn't even carved a pumpkin.  I use to go all out and go treak'n'treating.  I'm not in the mood.  So tonight all I'm doing is eating Mexican food and eating candy and watching all my favorite Horror Movies.  So I made a list of my favorite movies I will be watching tonight and if I don't all of them tonight I will watch the rest tomorrow, I really don't care.

Movies Tonight
1. Dracula
2. Frankenstein
3. Hocus Pocus
4. The Craft
5. The new Dracula
6. Stephen King's Storm of the Century
7.The Woods
8. Wolfman
9. Van Helsing
10. 50 Horror Classic movies (too many to list)
11. The Crow
12. The Crow: City of Angels
13. Anaconda
14. Cursed
15. Murder of Decree
16. Silence of the Lambs
17. Fright Night
18. Hansel and Gretel
19. The Lady Vanishes
20. Scream
21. Scream 2
22. Stephen King's Langoliers
23. The Haunting of Silver Springs
24. Silent Hill: Revelation
25. The Awakening
26. Werewolf
27. The Cat and the Canary
28.Rosemary's Baby
29. Devil's Prey
30. The Moth Diaries
31. Pharaoh's Curse
32. The Missing
33. Congo
34. Solomon Kane
35. The Raven
36. The Grey
37. Stephen King's Bag of Bones
38. The Fog
39. The Nightmare before Christmas
40. My favorite Goosebumps
41. The Twilight Zone
42. Alfred Hitchcock

I'm not going to watch all of these, but these are some of my favorite that I will be watching.  I hope all of you enjoy your Halloween and please be safe out there.

'Tis now the very witching time of night,
When churchyards yawn and hell itself breathes out
Contagion to this world.
~William Shakespeare


Tuesday, October 28, 2014

I'm Free

I made a huge decision that i didn't know if I could do it, but I did it.  I can't be used anymore, I can't be a puppet and manipulated into doing things that I know that its not right.  It's my turn to take my path and pick how i want it and not tell me what to do and tell me who I should be and how I should do things.  I was never a friend, I was their option.  I was only there if they wanted to start trouble, and do mean things and get me involved.  My wheels are finally turning and I should've noticed what was happening, but i didnt.  Now I'm alone and this evil ruined alot of good things.  This evil thinks its so funny and its not funny to me.

Now its my turn to take the reins and decide who I want to be.  I know the past can't be fixed, but I hope one day the bridges that have burn can be built again.  What's important now, is Me.  To figure what I want, to do things by myself until Brian comes home.  Do things that i love like reading, writing, painting, taking long nature walks.  I miss taking my long walks and exploring new things that I have never done before.

To be there for friends and not hide the truth from people that I love.  No more lying for other people, that's what gets me in trouble.  I'm free, there was a lot of weight on my shoulders and it has lifted.  Now I can go and walk like nothing hit me like their anger, hatred, pride, lust, greed.

I don't have to be afraid, now I can have my own opinions and not being told how i feel.  I don't need that in my life, because that makes me look fake and I'm not fake.  I don't like center of attention, I'm to shy for that.  I'm a thinker and creative.

No one can control me anymore.  I'm Free

"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option." -Maya Angelou.

That's all I was: AN OPTION.  I'm Free! 

Friday, October 24, 2014

24th Birthday

Oh man I can't believe that I'm 24 years old.  I can't believe how fast my life has been and I have had so many adventures in my life and I'm so blessed they have happened.  I'm thankful to god for this birthday and many more to come.  Let's see if I have 24 fabulous memories.

1. October 25, 1990: I was born in Elgin, Illinois, to the greatest parents a girl can ask for.
2. My first trip to Walt Disney World in 1992
3.January 24, 1994: My little brother and my best friend was born, in Rockford, Illinois.
4.My first pet was a hamster name Snowball.
5. My first favorite Halloween movie was Hocus Pocus.
6. When I was six, my first PG-13 movie was Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves, which I watched with my dad. (My mom never knew that).
7.Going to Grandma Doud's house in Iowa, riding on the Jet Ski and going fishing with grandpa.  I remember a time when me and grandpa were fishing and Grandpa caught a turtle and it scared him and he fell into the lake.  It was so funny, but I felt bad for grandpa.
8.Going to Apple River Canyon, in Illinois.
9.Going to New Salem with Grandma and Grandpa Wendt down in Springfield, Illinois.
10. Henry Vilas Zoo is one of my favorite places in Madison, Wisconsin, I have been going to that zoo my whole life and I love it there.  It has been about 5 years since I've been there.  I miss it terribly.
11.The very first movie I saw in theater was Disney's Aladdin.
12. The best days was driving my parents crazy with me watching Disney's The Little Mermaid over and over again.
13. Watching Classic TV shows: The Munsters, Bewitched, I Dreamed of Jeannie, The Addams Family
14.I love Mexican food, when I was a baby I loved hot salsa
15. Growing up with all the Harry Potter Books and Movies.
16.My first horse name Phazon Mr. Twister, My best friend (R.I.P)
17. Went to Walt Disney World for the 2000 Millennium:  It was awesome and Epcot had a parade and a great firework show, it was so fun and it was my brother's first time at Disney and also the foreign exchange student that was living with us it was her first time too.
19.Going Washington D.C.: That was a great vacation
20. Going to South Dakota to Mt. Rushmore and all the sitings thats there.
21. Beacon College: The school that made me who I am today.  Meeting new people and made a lot of great friends. Friends that will be there forever.
22. Meeting Brian Kaminski in my General Anthropology class.  The first day I met him I just knew that I was going to end up being with him whether or not at the time he was with someone.
23. Going to Walt Disney World with my friends.
24. Getting in engaged to Brian Kaminski, my best friend and my future husband.

I have had a pretty awesome life and there is more things to come and I can't wait.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

A Girl and her Horse

I loved horses and I always wanted one.  When I lived in Illinois every time we drove out to Freeport, Illinois there was a little farm that had a cute red barn with white trim and a white fence.  There was a grey horse with spots, not sure what breed at the time, but I always said "Hello Spot," even though the horse never heard me, I always said Hello and Goodbye.  I always dreamed about horses and one dream was that one day I would own my own and ride them everyday and have a beautiful red stable with white trim, beautiful white fencing and open fields for me to run away to be free from civilization.  I took lessons and I met my match and his name was Phazon Mr. Twister.  He was my best friend and he gave me a lot of confidence in myself and help me trust him and myself.  I rather be with him than humans.  I wish he was still alive and I could talk to my best friend.  I told him all my secrets, he was the only one i sang too.  I miss riding horses, I miss brushing them, I rather hang out with them, than humans.  At least they don't hurt you like humans do.  I rather be with horses now than being here in a hatred civilization.  Horses are so funny and they know what your feeling.  There is times when they know you just want to walk instead of ride.  When your sad they hug you with their large head and give you kisses.  When your happy they know when your ready to work and dance in the arena with upbeat classical music.  The heartbeat of a horse runs in my veins to my heart.  The fierce of a runner controls my legs like a horse.  The temperament of a horse is my attitude.  Being with a horse is my Zen zone.  I want my old life back, back in the barn, back on the horse.  That's the only kind of friend I deserve, the only friend I can trust and that he can trust me.  The horse is my soul-mate.  If I lived in the world of Harry Potter my patronous to protect me would be a horse.  The friendship between a girl and her horse is grace, beauty, spirit, and freedom.  The barn for the girl and her horse is a sanctuary to be alone and isolated from the outside world.  So what I'm saying a girl and her horse has a much better life in the barn and the open fields, than out in the real world, with real people.

Monday, October 20, 2014

Don't Give Up

If stuff is going wrong in your life and you don't like it Don't Give Up!  Take that road ahead of you and fight through the hardships that haunts the road and beat it, don't give up.  Don't give up on life, love, trust, friends, yourself.  Believe in yourself.  You need friends at your side for you not to be alone.  We all need each other, we're all in dark places and dark times, but we need one another to lean on each other shoulders and be there for one another.  

Don't shut yourself away in a dark and cold place.  Come back to the warm sunshine day and smiles and laughter.  Be with your friends and don't push them away, you will become a dark and lonely person.  Time to forgive and love again.  Don't ever give up.

I know you have stubborn heart, but I can relate because I am too.  Life without friends will be horrible bitter ending.  Our hearts will be hollow, dark, and lonely.  We never meant to hurt one another, so can we trust again, to give it another chance to keep us growing stronger everyday.  It's not going to be easy, but I know we can do it and be happy.  Don't give up on our love, friendship, and bond.

God has given us each other for a reason.  He gave us trust, love, friendship, and family.  God will never give us anything that we cant handle, he will help us in the process.  He has given us the power of choice and chance and he will always be there to get us out.  Now its not to time to lose faith and prayer.  You would not who you are today for accepting your past and its time to move on and just enjoy your life and never give up.  It's time to reach that hand out in the darkest and reach for your friends hands back into the light of happiness.  God doesn't want us to give up on each other.  We need each other.

Don't Give up! Believe!  Believe in yourself! Believe in your Friends!

Monday, October 13, 2014

Wide Awake

I've had a very rough couple of weeks and stuff that happened was very stupid, but all I can do is move on and worry what really matters.  I can't dwell on the bad things, but just remember the good things.  It's time to forgive and forget and just start living.  I have great people in my life and I'm blessed to have them.  I need to start anew, a fresh start with everyone, think positive, no more negative, tell the truth whether it hurts others or not.  No more drama.  Happy times and great memories.  If there is no one around to help me, then I will contact my father in the sky for his guidance and just pray and listen to him.  If I have hurt anyone because of my stubbornness, I'm truly sorry.  I'm wide awake and I need to take care of what really matters.  It's time to let go of the bad and bring in the new.  Time for me to invite new people in my life.  To start over.  The friends I have will always be in my heart and will be welcomed into my open arms whenever they choose to.  All I can do is focus on school, my internship, Brian, Marriage Prep, and planning my wedding.

Monday, October 6, 2014

Crappy Life

Why is there so many cruel people and they want to start fights with people that they have know for a long time and they're jealous of them and they do very stupid things to friends.  I trusted people that I shouldn't have trusted and now I have ruined the best relationship with person that meant a lot to me.  Brian is away  and I'm here with no shoulder to lean on.  What a crappy life this turned out to be.

Sunday, October 5, 2014

To Breathe

To be honest I don't care if anyone gets mad for what I write.  My life is so different from all my friends and family.  I live separately from my fiance.  I go to school and work and take care of our kittens and take care of our house.  As for Brian he's up in Indiana going through chemo and treatments yet again without me there.  What no one really knows is that Brian has two different kinds of Testicle Cancer.  That Brian is worse than he was a few months ago.  All he does is sleep all day, because of all the pain he is in.  I was told by my parents and his mother that Brian still has his headaches and he's not eating.  The hospital has given medication for him to sleep during his pain.  

To tell you the truth I have only my family, his family, my school, and a friend who has been at my side since Brian left and she's making a charity for him and that's not going to be starting until November, but I'm very grateful for her and I'm glad she is back in my life, she has been a shoulder to lean on, to call on, and just for her to be there and listen.  I wish all my friends could be like her.   I use to love doing things by myself and go places by myself, I don't like that anymore.  I miss hanging out with my best friend, but she's to busy.  I feel alone in all this, whether or not me and Brian had some difficulties a couple weeks ago, we always mend our fights and talk them out, I truly love him and I truly want to marry him, because whether he's a hothead sometimes I'm hothead sometimes, but he can be the sweetest man in the whole wide world.  Brian doesn't call me bad names, he takes care of me before himself, even though i tell him not too. 

 Brian is gentlemen and that's why i fell in love with him the first time i met him.  If no one else enjoys his company and also mine, then you don't need to be a part of our life.  I'm still planning our wedding, looking at invitations whether having them made by my best friend or just order them.  Looking at Dresses, but I found a few that I like, but i need to lose some weight before i can find my perfect dress for my perfect day.  Wedding planning to me is very hard.  Especially when the theme is Peacock and it's not going very well finding decorations for that.  So I'm probably going to have to create my own decorations.   One of these days i would like to have a girls day and talk about girl things, have a movie marathon or something to get my mind off of things and just be able to breathe.  

That's what i need to do is Breathe and stop worrying and enjoy life, whether bad things is going wrong, i just need to take a walk and breathe.

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Upside Down

My life again has turned upside down.  Brian my fiance is back in the hospital.  Why the hell is this happening to 24 year old.  He should be home enjoying his last year of college and being home with me and his friends and our cats and looking at ideas for our wedding next year.  For us to go through marriage prep together, but No, more cancer is to pop up and ruin everything.  Why is this demon getting in the way of happiness?  This isn't God's doing, the devil is getting in the way.  He's the Prince of Darkness, hate, disease, he's the reason of the sickness in this world, but why pick him, why pick a gentle soul of God's creatures?  

These chemicals are going to be so much harsher on his body and to tell you the truth i don't know how i'm going to handle this one.  I'm so scared for him and I won't be there this time, cause he's in another hospital up in Indiana instead of Florida.  So I can't go and see him every weekend like i did before.  This whole situation sucks and I wish it didn't happen.  Brian was doing very good during the summer and then it all started when we went to Walt Disney World for the week.  

We were suppose to have a great time to celebrate our engagement that we didn't get to celebrate during Spring Break and we finally got a chance, but it was fail.  Brian got sick in the middle of the week and he wasn't doing well and he felt sorry for ruining the trip and when our week was done we went home and we had to find out what was going on.  We went to urgent care and they just told us it was a head cold and nothing else and he was just given medication, but the meds didn't work, we decided it was time to go to the ER and we should've went the first time, because they found a very big tumor and he didn't surgery.  They took him all the way back up to Gainesville and me and my best friend Becca travelled up there and I had to give permission for them to operate on him, because his parents were on the plane.  So they removed a very big tumor and he has a nice horseshoe scar on the back of his head.

After that surgery Brian ended up going home for a few weeks up in Illinois, because his family wants a second opinion and wants to know why this keeps happening and see what we can do to stop it.  They went to this other hospital and they really didn't have anything new to say about his condition.  So it was a waste of trip.  So Brian was ready to come back home and Brian was having a hard time and he got a very sharp pain in his head they same area he had surgery, they went to the hospital to get a scan and they had to wait the next day to see if everything is okay.  They called him and said everything is good.  So Brian and his parents were on their way back to Florida until they got the call they found two more tumors in his brain.  They were about 5 hours away from Chattanooga, Tenn, when they got the call and they had to turn away and go back.  So now Brian is in for a treat.  They have to grow stem cells and then they're removing his stem cells to save them from the chemo treatment for him to have them later.  Our world is upside down and I don't know when its going to be Right-side up.

I'm all alone down here, but I know I have friends and family praying for him everyday and every night.  I have friends that will stand right beside me when I need them.  I pray to Saint Peregrine the Patron Saint of Cancer Patients every night and to our Holy Mother Mary to take my hand and help me to get through this journey.

My life has changed.  I have changed.  I grew up into the adult life too fast.  This kind of stuff should be happening later on in life, not now in a young adult.  If this happened to anyone else, I don't think they wouldn't be able to handle like I am.  It's hard work and you really need to stay positive through the whole thing and never give up.

Sunday, August 10, 2014

This is Me: Part Two

I am different than all my peers.  I don’t want to be a clone or follow someone’s lead, I want to take my own trail and be successful down it, not be put down and be manipulated to do other things.  I use to not care of what others think about me, I did in High school, but now I’m a senior in College.  When I started College after high school, I didn't have a lot of friends and I was okay with that.  I loved being on my own, and doing my own things.  I had a car and went grocery shopping went to church every Sunday or Saturday.  When I came to Florida for more schooling I met so many people and I had great friends, but I didn't want to get close, when I came to Beacon College, I was really quiet, didn't really open up to anyone.  My whole life I was bullied and the fact is I feeling would people still be bullies.  I had actually a couple great friends and two best friends.  My views changed when I hang out with them.  There is a lot of things that I don’t agree or believe in because of my religion and I was always told that I’m judging.  I stopped going to Mass, Something got into my head that you don’t have to go to church to pray to god.  So I stopped going, and I lost myself for not going.  I started swearing like a sailor, I have never sworn so much in my life and I did things that I shouldn't have done.  If I just went to school and stayed in my apartment, I would be in the same Marta that first came to Florida.  I use to write and read, and I don’t do that anymore.  I love writing, I started writing at age 11, and one of my stories went to a local Fair and got the Grand Prize Winner and from that day I kept writing.   One day my dream is to become an Author, whether its poetry, Novels, series, doesn't matter what I write.  My real interest is Anthropology/ Archaeology, one of these days I will go on to my schooling to get my Master’s in Anthropology/Archaeology.  I would love to travel the world and do excavations in Egypt and see the Great Wall of China, Mayan Temples, Stonehenge, the Catacombs in Paris, or Haunted places in Europe.  History has always been my favorite thing; the second favorite is Horses, and then writing, and then art.  Painting and Stain glass is my favorite.  I can’t wait for my senior year; I’m only going to worry about school and nothing else.  Sometimes I really think, I made a mistake returning to Beacon, I should've went to a school that had my degree, but I made a mistake, I have bad regrets.  I'm only human.

Sunday, August 3, 2014

This is Me: Part One

I didn’t think I was going to write this, because I didn’t know what people would think or say, or I’m just writing this for attention.  But I don’t care what people say anymore.  My name is Marta Marie Wendt, I was born on October 25, 1990 in Elgin, Illinois, at 12:44 am.  There was my parents, my mother Lori was still a college student, which she had to take a year off to take care of me when I was born and my father Edward was out of college but working at night.  My name was picked when my parents watched the Sound of Music and just recently we found out that my great great grandma was name Marta, but she spelled it like Marte, that was the old spelling over in Germany.  My great great grandma Marte was supposed to be on the Titanic to travel to the United States, but she was sick before the voyage so she had to postpone the trip to the United States.  If my family was on that voyage and was in that nasty wreck I wouldn’t be here nor my father or his twin and or my grandmother, my cousins, basically the whole family.  But they took a different voyage to Ellis Island and ended up in the state of Illinois.  Years later my brother Edward was born January 24, 1994 in Rockford, Illinois, we lived in Belvidere, Illinois at the time.

Me and my brother are very close, even though we have stupid fights, but we’re best friends and we have been through a lot growing up.  But we take good care of each other.   Eddie and I were taught differently and lived differently than all the people that I knew and know.  We lived without TV and we only watched movies, whether it was Disney or about Catholic saints, and bible stories.  That is the reason why I am today.  Gone to church every Sunday and holy days and holidays.  My favorite radio show as a kid was Adventures in Odyssey.  It was a show to about good and evil and what god wants to do with your life, it was something spiritual.  Christian and Catholic music and Disney songs, classical, is mainly what I listened too, but I loved it and still love it.  I don’t care I missed out on the popular group Nsync or Britney Spears, basically everything in the 90s, I ended up listening to them now, when it was my time to choose to do with my life. 

I attend catholic school from preschool to second grade.  The only best friend I had was a girl name Jenny.  We were like sisters, we did almost everything together, birthday parties, at each others house, everything.  Then second grade came and I was having a difficult time in my class.  My second grade teacher kept putting my name on the board because I was not paying attention or answering the questions she wanted asked because I didn’t understand.  My brain didn’t work that way.  So my parents ended up taking me to get tested at a public school.  My teacher and my principle told me and my parents that I had ADD and the councilor  that got me tested told my teacher, principle, and my parents that I had math disability, comprehension and decoding processing.  So yes I have a learning disability and I have always been made fun of my difference in learning.  I was always called the retard in class, whether you weren’t suppose say that word in school or not it was still said.  So from going to Catholic school me and my family moved and went to public school because the catholic school didn’t have the help that I needed.  So public school especially in the state of Illinois, it was hell.  The learning disability teachers didn’t help the students, they just put you down every day, every month, and the whole year.  I had a teacher when I was in 8th grade and she gave me a detention because I got a B on one of math tests.  The school in Illinois was horrible.  I had a few friends here and there, mainly boys were my friends.  I got along with boys more than girls, because I couldn’t deal with the drama and girls sometimes are bitches.

When we moved to Wisconsin in 2006, my life changed.  I went to a small school in Muscoda, Wisconsin.  Riverdale High School was a small school, but it was a good school.  My favorite teacher my first year there was awesome, she was Special Education teacher and she helped me with everything to the point where for the rest of high school I was out of my education classes and into real full fledge classes.  English class in high school was my favorite class, because of one teacher name Mrs. Julia Chitwood, she was great she and another teacher in my life got me into writing. 

I have so many dreams, but none of them never came true yet.  The one dream I had was and is to be a writer.  I love to write, whether I write about nature and fantasy or about myself.  When I was a little girl, there was a little farm that we passed by to town and there was spotted horse in one of the paddocks and in my head I named the horse Spot and since I was about 6 I always wanted a horse and take riding lessons, just to ride free.  I finally got my horse.  His name was Twister and he was my best friend, he gave me a lot of confidence, he was the reason why I wanted to be a Dressage Rider.  Dressage is so elegant and I wanted to be a part of that world, but I never got there.  Twister died and I was devastated and I lost my confidence and lost myself.
My first college I went a horse school and that didn’t pan out, I wanted to be a part of the horse world.  There was a time I wanted to own Thoroughbreds and race them out on the track, to be the next Triple Crown Winner.  Now I want to do something more amusing and exciting.  I want to be the Next Indiana Jones.  I want to be an Archaeologist/Anthologist.  I want to explore the world and experience new things.  I’m tired of everyday life and the country that I know.  I want to go to Egypt and see the Pyramids and the Sphinx and the mummies.  I have always thought of doing Biblical Archaeology.  I’m also curious about World religions and legends, vampires, all of that.  I want to open store with this kind of stuff.

Now my life is changing.  I’m starting my senior year at Beacon College, and finding a job for me to do after school.  But the first thing to do after college is to get married to my best friend.  My first year at Beacon College I met this guy in my General Anthropology class.  I was hoping that he was single, because he was very sweet and kind, but he ended up with this person that is hard to explain, but every time in class he always flirted with me and he gave me a pet name the Ugly Duckling and I knew he was the one.  He saw me, when no else have.  I was invisible and he sought me out.  We became very good friends and we never dated until my sophomore and junior year.  During the summer of Sophomore year we took a break to see if we were supposed to be together, but we are.  We’re back together and yes there is a lot of ups and downs, but what my fiancĂ© went through is life changing and I understand what kind of stress he was going through and he was told that the way he’s thinking will make him think that he’s not a real man and that he will take everything out on everyone.  I love him and he’s mine forever.
I’m so happy for being with someone that I love, my family, and my friends that I have now and what I will have in the future.  I actually can’t wait for the future and what is going to happen.

I’m a dreamer, a thinker.  I think all the time. I think of what people will think of me?  Or will they like me or will they judge me for who I am.  I don’t like being Center of Attention, I don’t like the attention, I never have and never will.  I have a nasty temper, but what helps that is painting.  I really love to paint.  My college Professor told me that I need to be a painter, basically an artist.  I never use to like art, but this teacher got me into art.  Painting and Mix Media art is my favorite and so is Stain glass.  My talent for stain glass comes from my mother, because she makes stain glass windows and lamps, I love it.


I have more to say, but I’m going to stop for now.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

What is a True Friend?

What is a true friend is someone that supports you no matter what even if you have supported them whether or not they listen to your advice you still stand-by your friend.  A true friend is someone you can trust, and that friend doesn't judge on anything.  Who doesn't put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings. True Friends are kind and they respect you.  A true friend is someone that loves you because they choose too, not because they feel like they should.  A true friend is whose company you have chosen, loyalty, who laughs when you do, trustworthy, willing to tell the truth even if it hurts. A true friend is someone who is willing to standby you when things are tough.  A true friend is someone who will just listen.  Listening is very important for being a true friend. you don't have to give advice or the right answers, just listen.  Ask them what they need, Smiles and hugs is great way to show affection to your friends.  Keep in touch whether you  close by, just talk or say Hi, to let them know your still here for them.  If you feel that your friend isn't in a safety environment, you as friend might have to make the effort to protect that friend.  True friends aren't suppose to ignore friends and make up excuses.  Is True friendship still real out in the world or is true friendship all a lie.

Saturday, July 12, 2014

World War 3

I believe i have started World War 3.  Everyone makes mistakes even if they think they're right or wrong.  Me and my Fiance just had the worse couple of days and weeks.  We have been planning of going to Wisconsin and Chicago to visit family and we were forced to stop because we were told that we couldn't drive for 18 hours to our destination and that Brian still isn't well, and Brian won't be able to drive.  Brian got cleared to drive after him being in the hospital and he has drove to Disney on the highway and everything, and still that's not satisfied.  I seriously don't understand why we need permission to go home and see family.  Just because nobody thinks we can drive that long drive.  

I have said somethings that I shouldn't have said, but I had too.  I'm in the middle of fights that doesn't even need to happen.  These people that I just started something, was going to be my family and i know that they dont want me now, the only person is still my fiance.  Right now i don't care what I said.  I have a voice and I'm going to use it, if i see something or hear something that I don't agree i will say something.  

Whenever I have children and if they need money for anything, I will give it.  God gave us the grace and compassion to take care of our children and give them the needs that we can give them. Someone i know is in a situation, where there care and he's in pain and I don't know how to help him.  Today I was with him and he had a big extremely panic attack, I will always be there with him, but I believe we're now extremely alone.  He has been through a lot and he can't even get help or kindness from his own.

World War 3 is started because I have said things to two parents that has treated me and my fiance like children and complaining that we live in Florida, when that was my choice to live not my fiance, but my fiance wanted to live with me in florida and he likes his job down here.  Someone likes a lot of control and I told him that he has no control over me and I told him he can't tell me what to do, he's not my father, i'm not his daughter, and I told him that he treats us like shit especially like my fiance.  I was also called Gold digger, by him so many times that i lost it and said that I'm marrying your son not your family.  His father this whole time has only thought i was going after my fiance's  money, and I really could careless about the money, being in relationship isn't about money.  

I just hope there is forgiveness in the future, but if not it's okay, I have my family and my fiance.

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Bored out of my Mind

Summer has started and I'm completely bored.  Brian is home, working at Beacon College in the IT department, going to therapy for his leg and hand.  For me I'm jobless, nothing, didn't find any or no one is hiring.  This country is so corrupt and jobs are really hard to come by.  All i have been doing is watching Netflix and walking around in nature parks.

What i love to do is paint and write, I've been on a writers block in such awhile, i can't even think on what to write, and the same with painting.  I have no energy to do anything.  Now i really need to focus what i need to do with my life.  I start my senior year of college this fall and i hope great opportunities start happening.

I really wish i can get up and go to far away places and see new things, or even live there.   I want to travel the world and experience  new cultures, ride elephants in India and eat Indian food. I want to do new things, not the same things I do every day.  I want to go Egypt see the pyramids and all the sites.  I want to be a world explorer and take pictures and videos of everything i did.  What's sad I haven't found myself yet, haven't expected who I am.

I hope my future will be what i dreamed of.


Tuesday, April 29, 2014

I can't wait until school is over.  I'm so overwhelmed with classes, moving out of my old apartment and then moving to my new one with my fiance.  I have a meeting with Florida Vocational Rehabilitation, I pray to god they can help me pay for my senior year in the fall, that would be great for me and for my parents.  I'm so nervous for that.  I have to call the local Catholic Church to get me and Brian in marriage classes.  My summer ahead is going to be very busy, taking Brian to therapy, doctor appointments, planning a wedding, oh boy lots to do.

I really can't believe I'm going to be a Senior in college next year.  I never thought I would get that far, but what I'm worried about what the hell am I going to do with a Liberal Studies degree.  I really regret not going to University of La Crosse Wisconsin for the Archaeological Degree, that is one of my biggest dream is becoming an Archaeologist, or a Historian for a Movie Studio.  My other ideas is to be a writer, which i have been writing since I was 11 years old, or like my Art professor keeps telling me a Painter.  I thought of the Park Service, but they assign you to a location and I have to take a test and I really would like to stay put in Florida.  Disney was always an ideal job.  I also was told I could be a good History teacher.  I seriously don't know?  I'm also so nervous because this economy really sucks and what if I don't find a job or anything for me and my fiance to live?  I really don't know?  Any ideas?

Monday, April 14, 2014

FAIRYTALE!!!!!! How the hell can you call our creator a fairytale? God and our savior Jesus Christ is a FAIRYTALE?????  Blasphemy!!! So apparently we're all a fairytale, the life we're living in is a fairytale, everything around us is a fairytale.  I'm so sick and tired of people saying that God isn't real, that his creation is a myth or like today, a FAIRYTALE!!!  So Heaven is a fairytale and so is hell?  How did we get on this earth, explain to me how we were created.  God is our father, and we need to start defending our father and all our spiritual family.  I'm a Catholic and proud to be one. 

Sunday, April 13, 2014

This new beginning will have difficult challenges.  Big adult responsibilities.  1. taking care of Brian when he comes home.  Taking him to his doctor appointments.  Driving him to work.  Helping him around the house, washing him and bathing him.  2.  Planning a wedding, where we should have is the question, engagement photos, save the dates, colors, my girls, his boys, so much to plan and I have a year to plan it. 3. Try to enjoy the summer, getting use to living in the state that I love, I usually go back to Wisconsin for the summer to be with my family, but now my new life has started and living on my own with Brian. 4.  Find a job or internship if i can find one, this society is so corrupt,  jobs are hard to come by.  A huge commitment is on the way.

Friday, April 11, 2014

I was told I was special, a different person.  Ever since my fiance has been in the hospital i have felt different and special. God has given me the courage to think about others before myself.  I use to be a selfish person and didn't care about other people, but now as I have a fiance that just through a stroke and having cancer on top of that, I realize he needs my help, before I need to take care of myself.  I gave up all the plans me and him made for to be with him.  My whole spring break, instead of going to Disney or the Beach, or anything fun, I stayed with him in the hospital, while he was going through all his treatments.  Didn't care of what other people were doing or saying, I needed to stay with Brian.  As I got back to school, everyone was like "I can't believe you stayed there with him the whole week of Spring Break,"  I got really annoyed when people kept saying that, because I realized if they were in the same shoes as I was, they wouldn't do what I just did.  I realized at this small college I attend, there is a lot of selfish people, and greedy, and cruel.  

Why wouldn't I stay with Brian, he's my fiance, I'm going to marry him in a year.  I love him very much, I'm not going to leave his side.  Teachers and faulty keep telling me that everything will be fine, and happy for us and happy that Brian is getting better quickly, quicker than we all expected.  God has made us strong, gave him the willpower to get better and come back to be the bubbly man he is.  

I'm proud of what I became I am a different person, I'm human, I not shutting myself in my shell, I have opened up and breathed the air.  Now I just need to fight and make a whole new life for me.  I'm very excited to be apart of Brian's family and friends and as for him being apart of my family and friends.  Also I turn back to my spiritual family and all the saints.  I have lost myself and I haven't been praying like I'm suppose too, and receiving communion.  God and Jesus use to be the biggest and important part of my life and somewhere in my life I drifted far away in the middle of the sea of sins of others.  God is bringing me back and is giving me a new life, a new me, a man of my dreams, friends that i have never had growing up, a big family.  Cheers for the New Beginning!